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Cheat Codes for Life that Every 40-Year-Old Man Should Know
What do you know now that you wish you'd known earlier?
Let's face it, up to this point in your life, you thought you were pretty smart. Doesn't every guy in his twenties think he has it all figured out?
Maybe now that you're post-twenties, you realize that you missed so many things.
Where would you be today if you had life's cheat codes earlier?
Everyone wants you to be "normal."
How many times have you heard from your friends and family, "Why don't you do what everybody else is doing?" Go to school. Get a real job. Get married and have kids. In other words, follow societal norms and be average.
Maybe being one of the sheep isn't the best idea if you wish to lead an extraordinary life. People are going to judge you. That's okay — live life on your terms.
You're competing against an army of one.
The only person standing in your way is YOU. Measure success by your standards and quit comparing yourself to others.
Compete against the man you were yesterday. If you can continually beat that guy, success is around the corner.
Seek rejection instead of avoiding it.
If you're not being rejected or failing; you're also probably not challenging yourself enough.
Trying and failing often mean that you're in the game. Seeking rejection puts you ahead of 99% of the rest of the world. Most people watch the game from the sidelines, so they never lose.
Growth occurs after the struggle.
Along with seeking rejection, you need to take more risks in your life. When you struggle, you learn from your experience and get better.
You'll never fully understand your capabilities unless you fight through adversity.
Know what you want in life and chase it.
A compass won't do you any good if you don't know where you're going.
Waiting to see what happens is the lottery mentality. Quit waiting for luck or some outside force to determine the course of your life. Go and get what you want.
Focus on the one thing.
Once you know what you want, become obsessed with it. Practice it daily and build systems around it to create a habit that leads to success.
Hunt your goal with a sniper rifle and stop using the shotgun approach; maybe I'll hit on something someday.
The biggest and most hurtful lies are the ones you tell yourself.
Learn to be brutally honest with yourself to become the person you want to be instead of the one you want to believe you are.
Emotions can be a strength.
Give up the fallacy that being an emotionless robot makes you appear manly and strong.
It's okay to cry at a funeral or tell someone you love them. Emotions make you unique and memorable to the people closest to you.
Conversation is a superpower.
Conversations lead to conversions in all walks of life. Whether talking to someone you're attracted to or working on your next great business idea, small conversations lead to significant results.
Personal conversations are leverage that emails, DMs, and texting cannot compare when building genuine relationships.
Assume imperfections in everyone.
The saying goes, "Never meet your idols. They will only disappoint you."
Nobody's life is perfect, and we all have our flaws. Usually, the ones we hold in the highest regard have the most skeletons in their closet. They're just better at hiding them than the rest of us.
The American Dream is broken.
In a nutshell, the American Dream is pursuing wealth to achieve happiness. It's killing people by keeping them stuck in the grind instead of living the lives they were meant to live.
True wealth is time and freedom from someone telling you what to do. The American Dream is debt and working until you're sixty or seventy.
Having a life is more important than a career.
Most people have it backward. Their career takes precedence over everything else in the hope that someday it will pay off.
If you're sacrificing family and friends for your job, you're doing it wrong. Most companies would fire you in a minute if it meant an extra dollar in their pocket.
Life is never as good or bad as it seems.
If you're grateful for nothing, that's precisely what you have.
In almost every instance; your life is better than you realize. Sometimes you need to take a step back and a deep breath to see it. Remember that good and bad are simply emotions that you control if you choose to.
One day, you'll look back and realize that you worried too much about things that don't matter.
What seems like a big deal today probably won't matter in a few hours, days, weeks, or months. Don't get caught up in what could happen or even what did happen. Keep your eyes forward, and don't sweat what's outside of your control.
Now that you have the cheat codes, how will you play the game of life differently?
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